Everyone goes through stages of loneliness, some of us more than others. Loneliness can be an empty and defeating feeling that drains you and can leave you with low self-esteem, feeling worthless, or unloved. Different people suffer from varied severities of loneliness and different people deal with it in different ways. We as human beings are made to interact with other humans and have meaningful relationships, it is how we get by. Although, the conflicting part of it is that even sometimes when we have people around us, somehow, we still feel lonely. Fortunately, there are ways to deal with it. If you are feeling lonely, keep reading to learn how to ease that loneliness.
#1 Identify why you are feeling lonely
The first thing you should do is identify why you are feeling lonely. The only way you will be able to mend your feelings of sadness is to identify where they are coming from. Say you have a lot of friends, but maybe you have so many friends that you don’t have any truly deep and meaningful relationships with any of those particular people. It is possible to have relationships that not only don’t cure your loneliness but increase those feelings.
Ask yourself the following questions:
- When do you feel lonely?
- Are there certain people who make you feel more lonely?
- Have you always felt this way? If not, for how long?
- How does feeling lonely affect you?
#2 Start a journal to track your feelings
Tracking your feelings on paper can help wonders. It gives you the opportunity to self-reflect and truly get to know yourself. Being able to reflect gives you the opportunity to address certain aspects of your life or feelings that you are having. Take the questions from above and put them onto paper. You can write anything, how you are feeling, happy or sad, etc., what you are thinking, or even the activities of your day. The important thing is to open up to yourself and your journal.
#3 Try talking to someone about it
Talking to someone about how you feel can be extremely helpful as it gives another person the opportunity to address your feelings and perhaps put them into another perspective. Try talking to a trusted friend or family member and tell them how you are feeling. If you don’t have someone to talk to about it or someone that you want to talk to about it, a great option is to look into counseling in Carrolton. Even if you do have a loved one to talk to, speaking to a professional will be extremely beneficial for you.
#4 Practice Meditation
Meditation is a great way to ease strong or negative feelings, especially those associated with loneliness and depression. It will help you to get in touch with your feelings, emotions and thoughts. Find a quiet spot and sit in a comfortable position. Close your eyes and focus on your breathing. Try to not become distracted by thoughts. Keep your eyes closed, but focus on your physical senses, what do you hear, smell, feel? Now look deeper, what do you feel emotionally?
#5 Don’t dwell
Don’t dwell on your feelings of loneliness or sadness, make the decision to do something about it and move forward. If you are reading this post, you have come this far, don’t stop now.
#6 Consider adopting a pet
Having a pet as a companion is an amazing way to help deal with feelings of loneliness. Plus, you could be saving a life.
#7 Make an effort to be social and make meaningful relationships
To feel less lonely, you need to make an effort to be around people. Attend various social events, go to the park, find a place to be around people. Take a look at your current relationships, are they meaningful? If not, maybe you should consider why. Try and focus on the people in your life who make you happy or who truly love you, family is a great place to start.
#9 Focus on positivity and becoming a happier you
You have to try and make the decision to be a happier you. Try to change your mindset and try to see things in a positive light. Practice healthier thoughts and healthier activities such as eating right and exercising. Remember that you aren’t alone in this, many people suffer from loneliness and there are ways to ease and defeat those feelings.
Here at Lifeworks we are a team of caring and trusting professionals that can help. If you are considering therapy in Carrolton, have any questions or would like to make an appointment, contact us today.